Tips to Support People in Grief and the Bittersweet Ending to my Unemployment
I reflect on the end of an unemployment journey filled with learning and growth. I also share an unexpected tragedy that is deeply affecting Mikel's circle of surf friends.
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Aprovechar: to make the most of.
That's the verb I'd use to describe my six-month unemployment phase. I dove into a whirlwind of courses, volunteered for various events and organizations, and met countless inspiring individuals. It was a period of intense learning and personal growth, and though it left me a bit spent, I'm incredibly grateful for the experience.
I have a conversation with Esther for the podcast; recorded when I was in the throes of job interviews and copy tests. I'll post that soon so you get some insight into the new job I'm starting on Monday. But editing may have to wait!😮💨
Pausing projects.
Proud of the ten episodes of the podcast. Eleven if you count this quick roundup of me speaking solo. (Click here for Spotify!)
TBH, I’m caught between the excitement of new beginnings and the weight of creative projects awaiting my attention. With 35 article ideas neatly penned on my Notion and countless more brewing in my brain, I feel the need to lock myself with my laptop in a cave—ideally with WIFI, sockets, and coffee.
Balancing these aspirations with the demands of a full-time job will be a big challenge. Poco a poco, little by little, I'll learn to navigate this new chapter.
I hoped this week would give me time to tackle everything I wanted to accomplish before diving into my new role. Also wanted to celebrate with the people I’ve met and everyone I ranted my worries to! But the universe had other plans.
Sad news
A good friend of Mikel's tragically passed away this Sunday, and we are all shaken. If you have any rituals, prayers, or meditations, please keep him in your thoughts.
His name is Jaime.♥️ He was one of the first people I ever met here. He always tried to make everyone feel comfortable and cared for. Always spreading good vibes.
I can't imagine the pain his loved ones are going through. I'm just trying to be there for them without getting in the way. Know what I mean?
I reached out to a friend and amazing human being who works with people, particularly kids, to develop emotional intelligence. I wanted to get expert advice on how to support people grieving. I’ll share Deiene’s tips in case you ever need them too.
How to Support Someone in Grief
Be present and listen.
Loneliness can be tough. Some may need to talk, while others prefer silence. Respect each person's needs.
Acknowledge that you may not understand their pain fully. Let them know you're there to listen and support them, even if you're unsure how.
Offer practical help with tasks like groceries, paperwork, making meals.
If you reach out and they don't respond, assure them they don't need to reply, but continue to show your presence and support.
Grief is a personal journey, and everyone experiences it differently. It's important to respect each person's process and offer support in whatever way they need.
Avoid These Missteps When Supporting Someone in Grief
Don't impose expectations on their behavior.
Don't shy away from their tears or silence.
Avoid making the situation about yourself.
Refrain from imposing your own methods of coping with grief.
Avoid assuming their beliefs or religion.
Gotta channel that empathy and kindness when we're comforting someone who's grieving. Gotta be comfortable being uncomfortable.
I wonder… What's helped you through tough times?❤️ On the contrary, what words or actions have been a total flop?😤
Hay buhay. (*Sigh* life.)
After a period of worry and self-doubt, this tragedy was a wake-up call. It reminded me that the things we stress over aren't always as big as they seem.
Give your special peeps an extra tight squeeze today. Sending love your way. There are folks I've been missing like crazy, and I'll be carving out more quality time with them.
